I am trying to grok where you are in your understanding of yourself and the topic of addiction and its connection to sobriety as well as knowing about other parts of yourself. I am not problem centric, but liking advancements instead. Like helping people to win the X Factor or an Olympic event, having truly great relationships, eating amazing food, finding the best water to drink on the planet, developing their talents, etc. I'm particularly interested in the genius in everyone - the real person.
Briefly: When a person has a problem, they usually blame themselves for not being able to solve their personal problem even with the help of people who supposedly know how to solve those types of problems. I don't blame myself nor the other people. If I have a problem that I can't solve, I ask for help from people that position themselves to know. If they do not solve my problem, then they do not know something that I or both of us need to know.
For example, when I was not get better from physical therapy for my shoulder after our pedestrian automobile accident, I concluded that the people trying to help simply didn't know something that I needed to know. Because I did everything they told me to do and was hands on assisted by them and yet I did not get my range of motion to return anywhere near where it was before our accident. So I enrolled in the Harvard Medical Countway Library. At first, I began to organize topics in the order I needed to learn them, and then I went about doing that every day for four years. I camped out at that library most days for hours. I found out the physical therapy world was not getting the level of results I wanted. The promises were false. I wanted to be better in my body than before my accident, not just a pathetic improvement from my mangled body state. I simply went looking for the solution instead of blaming myself for not getting better. I wanted to be able to move even better than I did before our accident.
One day I was studying at one of the library desks and a man asked me a question. Because I was so focused on what I was studying and because the desks were so large, I hadn't even seen him sit down across from me.
He asked: "You're not a doctor are you?"
I replied: "We both know I am not a doctor".
He continued: "And you understand what you are reading?"
Doubting that I could understand medical material that was so technical, I got what he was thinking about me. So I explained to him what I was reading.
"You do understand what you are reading!" He said somewhat shockingly.
"No problem," I said, thinking to myself that my talent is in my ability to understand movement, so the technical material was not overly challenging like it would be for me on other subjects. I love movement better than most everything else. Talent is like that.
"Can I give you some advice?" he asked politely.
"Yes of course," I said.
"If you want to make a diagnosis, you will need sufficient facts and then your decision will be obvious."
"Thanks," I said, knowing I was trying to diagnose how to rehabilitate my left shoulder from my pedestrian automobile accident and had not yet concluded on how to fix my problem. I understood what he said but I had not yet experienced creating a sufficient diagnosis for my own treatment. The worm hole I found myself going down unearthed most of the ideas in rehabilitative medicine and created what another doctor described as a whole new branch of western medicine. I simply wanted my body and life back.
I returned my focus to what I was reading. After but a few moments, I thought that it was kind of wild that he would say what he said to me, so I looked back across the table to get a better look of him, but he was gone. I wondered if I imagined the whole thing. He was like an angel.
Simply stated: when you have a problem that other people don't have, then those people that don't have the problem must be behaving in ways you are not. Specifically with addiction, people that are not addicted are being in ways that addictive folks are not. People that are sobering are not only NOT addictive, but they also like the work they do, seek quality in all products they live with, they are self expressive, they like being with youthful people, they like thinking and puzzling their way to solutions to personal challenges of their own and of others, they like to sing and dance, etc. While people that are addictive are mostly thinking they want to simply not be addicted. But not being addicted and not using addictive substances, though paramount and often necessary to stay alive, it is not sobriety. Sobriety is not just being non addictive, it is a way of living that includes the things I just mentioned above.
However what is even less known is that the anterior lateral muscles of the body are concomitant with the health of the stomach. And the person is addicted if these muscles have accumulated dense fascia and scar tissue (ADFST). When the ADFST is removed painlessly through self and assisted Resistance Flexibility, the person begins having the sobering behaviors I mentioned above. They are not only not addicted, but they are also sobering.
On a deeper philosophical level, sobriety is a transmutation of addiction just as creativity is a transmutation of depression. You don't get rid of the feelings of addiction, depression, etc. You need to develop the parts of you that transmute those negative qualities into positive qualities. The negative qualities are like compost. You don't grow flowers out of flowers, you grow them out of compost, and the same is true for sobriety, creativity, etc. They grow out of their opposites. So you don't want to get rid of the negatives, but you must develop in yourself the equipment to transmute or process the negatives into the positives. I personally don't have a good versus bad mentality. Sure bad is bad and good is good. Yet, I think that what is good is but transmuted bad.
A dangerous strategy for people that are struggling with things that are bad (and everyone is doing this with different topics), is a strategy to concentrate on doing good and that will erase or replace the bad. Quite the contrary. Concentrating on good things and being positive is an absolute necessity, but attempting to ignore the bad only builds the bad. A person needs to learn how to transmute or process the bad into good, and then they realize that is what good is. Good isn't just good, it is the transmutation of bad. If you concentrate on only the good even worse stuff happens.
Please be careful here. Temperance is a personality trait that one of the 16 genetic personality types innately manifests. The way they describe how they 'do' temperance is that if they look at something to eat that is not good for them, they then imagine eating it, and if imagining eating it makes them feel not so good, then they choose to not eat it, and then go about looking for what would really be satisfying instead of participating in the not so good alternative. If they are even more educated, they have realized that eating addictive substances doesn't really give them the real high feeling they are looking for. The addictive substance is toxic and when ingested, their body produces endorphins to counter the toxic response and that's what gives the person the buzz, not the addictive substance itself. The buzz that is experienced from the addictive substance occurring while poisoning oneself isn't the real high but a false alternative. The real buzz they are looking for does not have a toxic attachment. It is a pure high.
Now does all this hit you? You probably will need to read it several times. I'd like to know.